How to Screen Clients for a Safer Escort Job Experience

Jan, 29 2026

Working as an escort doesn’t mean you have to accept every client who messages you. In fact, saying no is one of the most powerful tools you have for staying safe. Too many people think safety is about carrying pepper spray or sharing your location - and those help. But the real shield starts long before you meet someone: it starts with how you screen them.

Start with the message

The first thing you should look at isn’t their photo or profile. It’s the message they send. Generic messages like “Hi, you’re hot, can we meet?” are red flags. Real clients who know what they’re doing write something specific. They mention your profile, ask about your services, or reference something unique you posted. If they’re copying and pasting the same text to ten people, they’re not serious - they’re testing the waters or worse.

Watch for language that feels off. Phrases like “I’ll pay extra if you do X” without asking first, or “I don’t want to use protection” are immediate no’s. Even if the money sounds good, that’s not a client - that’s a risk you don’t need.

Check their profile - but don’t trust it

Profiles on AdultWork can look polished. Someone might have ten reviews, perfect grammar, and a nice photo. But reviews can be fake. Photos can be stolen. Don’t skip checking their profile - but treat it like a clue, not proof.

Look for patterns. Are all the reviews from the same month? Do they all say the exact same thing? That’s a sign they were written by the same person - maybe even the client themselves. Look for mentions of location, time, and service details. Real clients talk about specifics: “I liked how you handled the massage part,” or “You were punctual and calm.” Vague praise like “Amazing experience!” is meaningless.

Check their activity. Have they been posting for months? Or did they join yesterday and already have five reviews? New accounts with instant credibility are a major red flag.

Do a voice call before meeting

A video call isn’t just for reassurance - it’s a safety filter. Most predators avoid voice or video. If someone says “I don’t do calls,” that’s a huge warning. You’re not being rude - you’re protecting your life.

During the call, listen for how they speak. Do they sound nervous? Too eager? Do they try to rush you? Say things like “Let’s just meet now” or “I’ll pay you double if we skip the small talk”? That’s pressure. Real clients are calm. They respect your boundaries. They ask questions. They wait.

Use the call to confirm details: time, location, services, payment. If they get defensive when you ask, walk away. You’re not being difficult - you’re being smart.

Ask for ID - and know what to look for

Some escorts refuse ID. Others say it’s not necessary. But here’s the truth: if someone refuses to show you a government-issued photo ID, you should not meet them. Not even for a quick session. Not even if they offer £500.

Ask for their name, date of birth, and address. Then ask them to hold up their ID next to a piece of paper with today’s date written on it. Take a screenshot. Don’t trust them to say “it’s fine” - make them prove it. Fake IDs are easy to spot: blurry photos, mismatched fonts, wrong holograms. Google how to check UK IDs - it takes five minutes.

If they say “I don’t carry ID,” or “I’m not comfortable,” that’s not a deal-breaker - it’s a deal-ending moment.

Set boundaries before you even leave the house

Write down your hard limits. Not just “no anal” or “no rough play.” Write down what you won’t tolerate emotionally or physically. Examples: no drugs, no filming, no bringing a friend, no going to their place unless you’ve vetted it for weeks.

Send those limits in writing before the meeting. Say: “Here’s what I’m comfortable with. If this changes, we cancel.” That’s your contract. If they argue, you walk. No guilt. No second chances.

Some clients will test you. They’ll say, “I thought you’d be more flexible.” That’s not about you - it’s about their control issues. You’re not there to please them. You’re there to do your job safely.

Use a trusted third party

You don’t have to do this alone. Tell a friend or colleague where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and what time you’ll check in. Give them the client’s name and ID photo if you have it. Set a timer. If you don’t text “all good” by 11 PM, they call the police.

Some escorts use apps like “SafeEscort” or “Escort Shield” - free tools that auto-send your location and trigger alerts if you don’t respond. Don’t wait until something goes wrong to set this up. Do it now. Even if you think you’re “too careful,” you’re not.

Trust your gut - always

Your body knows before your brain does. That tightness in your chest. The urge to cancel. The feeling that something’s “off” - even if you can’t say why. That’s not anxiety. That’s your survival instinct.

Ignore it once, and you’ll regret it. Listen to it every time, and you’ll stay safe.

There’s no shame in cancelling a booking. No shame in blocking someone. No shame in saying “no.” The clients who respect you won’t mind. The ones who do? They weren’t worth your time anyway.

What to do after the meeting

Even if everything went fine, take five minutes after you get home to write down what happened. Date, time, location, client name, services, payment method. Keep a private log. Not for anyone else - for you. If something happens later, you’ll have a record.

Also, pay attention to how you feel. If you feel drained, scared, or confused - even if nothing bad happened - that’s a signal. Talk to someone. Don’t brush it off. This job takes emotional strength. You deserve to protect your peace as much as your body.

Common mistakes escorts make

• Meeting someone after midnight without a safety plan
• Accepting cash only - it’s harder to trace if something goes wrong
• Going to a hotel room without checking the booking under their name
• Ignoring bad reviews on their profile because “they’re nice in person”
• Letting someone talk them into changing the plan last minute

These aren’t just “mistakes.” They’re patterns that lead to danger. Avoid them, and you’re already ahead of 80% of people in this industry.

What a good client looks like

They message clearly. They respect your boundaries. They pay on time. They don’t push for extra services. They’re polite before, during, and after. They leave honest reviews. They come back. They refer others.

These clients exist. You don’t need to chase them. You just need to stop letting the bad ones in.

Final reminder

Safety isn’t a checklist. It’s a habit. It’s saying no when it’s hard. It’s trusting yourself when no one else does. It’s knowing your worth isn’t measured by how many clients you take - but by how well you protect yourself.

You’re not just doing a job. You’re running a business. And a good business owner doesn’t take every customer. They take the right ones.