From Interview to First Meeting: What to Expect in an Escort Job on AdultWork
Walking into your first escort job isn’t like starting any other gig. There’s no HR orientation, no uniform, no payroll system. You’re stepping into a world where trust, boundaries, and preparation make the difference between a smooth experience and something that goes sideways. If you’re new to AdultWork or considering it, knowing what happens between that first interview and your first client meeting can save you time, stress, and possibly your safety.
How the Interview Really Works
Most people think the interview is just a quick chat on the phone or video call. It’s not. It’s a screening process - and it’s your first real test of professionalism. You’ll be asked about your availability, services offered, rates, and boundaries. But the questions go deeper than that.Reputable escorts don’t just say yes to everything. They set limits early: no drugs, no unprotected sex, no last-minute changes. If a client pushes back on boundaries during the interview, that’s a red flag. Good clients respect boundaries before they even arrive. If they don’t, they won’t after.
You’ll also be asked where you’re based, whether you’re working alone or with someone, and if you’ve done this before. Don’t lie. If you’re new, say so. Many clients prefer first-timers because they’re more open to guidance - but they also expect honesty. Lying about experience leads to bad matches and risky situations.
The best interviews end with you feeling calm, not pressured. If the client sounds overly eager, avoids answering your questions, or tries to rush you into meeting, walk away. Your comfort matters more than the fee.
What Happens Before the First Meeting
After the interview, things move fast. You’ll confirm the date, time, and location. Most meetings happen in your own place, a hotel, or a client’s home - depending on your preference and safety rules. Never agree to a location you don’t control.Before you meet, send a photo to the client. Not a full-body shot. Not a selfie in lingerie. A clean, well-lit headshot that shows your face clearly. This isn’t about attraction - it’s about verification. You need to know who you’re meeting. They need to know they’re not being set up.
Also, share your phone number. Not your personal one. Use a burner or a separate line. Keep your main number private. You’re not being rude - you’re being smart.
Do a quick background check if you can. Ask the client for their full name and verify it through public records or a simple Google search. Most legitimate clients won’t mind. If they refuse, that’s another red flag.
Let someone you trust know where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and what time you expect to be back. Text them when you arrive and when you leave. If you don’t check in within 30 minutes of your expected return, they call the police. This isn’t paranoia. It’s standard practice among experienced escorts.
Your First Meeting: What to Expect
You’ve done your prep. You’ve set your boundaries. You’ve told someone where you are. Now you’re face-to-face.Most clients are quiet at first. They’re nervous too. Don’t rush into things. Take a minute to talk. Ask them how they found you. Ask what they’re looking for. Their answers tell you more than their profile ever could.
Pay attention to body language. Are they fidgeting? Avoiding eye contact? Talking too fast? These aren’t always signs of danger - but they’re signs to stay alert. If something feels off, you have the right to stop. Right then. No explanation needed.
Always insist on protection. No exceptions. Even if they say they’re clean, you don’t know their history. Use your own condoms and lube. Don’t rely on what they bring. Keep them in your bag, not on the nightstand.
Keep your phone charged and within reach. Put it on silent, but don’t turn it off. If you need to call for help, you need to be able to do it quietly.
Most first meetings last between 60 and 90 minutes. Clients usually pay upfront. Cash is still the most common method. Some use bank transfers or digital wallets - but only if you’ve confirmed the payment before they arrive. Never start until you’ve been paid.
What Not to Do
There are a few mistakes that new escorts make - and they’re dangerous.- Don’t go to a client’s home on the first meeting. Even if they say it’s safe. Hotels are better. You can leave anytime. You can call reception. You can lock the door.
- Don’t drink alcohol or take anything before meeting. Your judgment is your most important tool. Keep it sharp.
- Don’t share your real name, address, or social media. Use a pseudonym. Keep your personal life separate.
- Don’t ignore your gut. If you feel uneasy, leave. Even if they’ve paid. Even if you’ve already started. Your safety isn’t negotiable.
One escort in Brighton told me she ended a session halfway through because the client kept asking about her childhood. She didn’t know why, but it felt wrong. She left. Two weeks later, police found out he’d been posing as a client to target women. She didn’t know it at the time - but she trusted her instincts. That’s the kind of instinct you need to develop.
After the Meeting: What Comes Next
Once you’re done, take five minutes to breathe. Don’t jump into your next thing. Process the experience. Did it go as expected? Did anything surprise you? Write it down. Not for anyone else - for you.Update your profile on AdultWork. Did the client leave a review? If they did, respond professionally. If they didn’t, don’t beg. Not every client will leave feedback - and that’s fine.
Check your payment. If it was cash, count it in front of them. If it was digital, confirm the transfer before they leave. Never let someone walk out without payment.
Afterward, delete any photos or messages you don’t need. Don’t keep contact details unless you want to see them again. And if you do? Only if they respected your boundaries and paid on time.
How to Know If This Is Right for You
Not everyone is cut out for this work. It’s not about being bold or outgoing. It’s about consistency, emotional control, and knowing when to say no.Ask yourself: Can you separate your personal feelings from your work? Can you handle rejection without taking it personally? Can you stay calm under pressure? If the answer is yes, you might be ready.
But if you’re doing this because you’re desperate, or because you think it’s easy money - you’ll burn out fast. This job rewards people who treat it like a business, not a side hustle.
There’s no shame in trying it once and deciding it’s not for you. Plenty of people do. And there’s no shame in sticking with it for years - if it’s safe, respectful, and pays well.
Final Thoughts
The first meeting is just the beginning. It’s not about impressing the client. It’s about protecting yourself. Every escort who’s been doing this for more than a year will tell you the same thing: your safety isn’t optional. It’s the foundation.If you go in prepared, clear-headed, and with your boundaries locked in, you’ll walk away with more than money. You’ll walk away with confidence. And that’s worth more than any rate.
Do I need a background check to start an escort job on AdultWork?
No, AdultWork doesn’t require background checks. But you should do your own. Verify clients by name, check public records, and trust your instincts. Your safety depends on you, not the platform.
Can I work with a friend or roommate for safety?
Yes, many escorts work with a trusted friend who acts as a safety check. They can screen clients, be on standby during meetings, or even be in the next room. But never let someone else control your boundaries. You’re the one who decides what happens.
What if a client refuses to pay after the meeting?
Never start without payment confirmed. If they refuse to pay after, leave immediately. Do not argue. Do not threaten. Call someone you trust and report it to AdultWork. Most platforms have reporting tools - use them. Never chase payment yourself.
Is it safe to meet clients in my own home?
It can be, but only if you’ve taken steps to secure your space. Install a peephole, use a lockable door, keep your phone charged and nearby, and never let a client know your full address until after the interview. Many experienced escorts prefer hotels for first meetings for this reason.
How do I know if a client is legitimate?
Legitimate clients answer your questions clearly, respect your boundaries, pay upfront, and don’t pressure you. They don’t ask for private numbers, don’t push for extra services, and don’t try to move the meeting location last minute. If they do, they’re not legitimate.
Should I use condoms even if the client says they’re clean?
Yes. Always. No exceptions. Clean doesn’t mean safe. People can be asymptomatic. You don’t know their history. You control your safety - so bring your own protection. It’s not about trust. It’s about risk management.
Can I get in trouble legally for doing this in the UK?
In the UK, selling sexual services isn’t illegal. But soliciting in public, running a brothel, or living off the earnings of someone else’s work is. Working independently from your own space or a hotel is legal. Never share your space with others for profit, and never advertise in public places like streets or parks.
If you’re thinking about starting, remember: this isn’t a path to quick cash. It’s a job that demands discipline, awareness, and courage. Do it right, and you’ll build something sustainable. Do it careless, and you’ll regret it.